A story about how I became a remarkably introverted extrovert

A story about how I became a remarkably introverted extrovert

As a child, I was most definitely an extrovert. I talked A LOT. I loved being the centre of attention. I wanted to be top of the class. I was delighted to be on stage. I liked my name being called out. I enjoyed being watched by other people (that sounds creepy but I...
Daddy, when do I get to be a grown-up?

Daddy, when do I get to be a grown-up?

At some time around the age of 30, I remember being in the car on the way to Dorset and having a lengthy, amusing and interesting conversation with some girlfriends about “when do we become grown-ups?”. Because, very obviously, we really weren’t at...
Where are you on diversion to?

Where are you on diversion to?

Many of you will already know that diversion and distraction can be great tools for managing your mood. But my use of the word ‘can’ here, is really important. You see, not all diversions are created equal. You could think of it a bit like strategies for...
Who are you behind the labels?

Who are you behind the labels?

We like labels. They help us make sense of the world, where we fit in to a complex society and where others sit relative to us. There’s so much potential information for us to learn about people, most of which would take a lifetime to uncover, that we use labels...
Facing my biggest fear

Facing my biggest fear

I think I’ve always known it, but a few weeks ago I was ready to admit to myself, and others, that my biggest fear is being lonely. My fear is of being in that horrible place where you believe that you’re quite alone in the world and that there’s no-one, in that...
Ready to embrace your dark side?

Ready to embrace your dark side?

I hope you won’t be disappointed, but this post isn’t about Star Wars. Instead, it’s all about the fact that every one of us has a dark side and how we’d probably feel much better about ourselves if we could find a way to both accept and...
Where are you living? The past, the present or the future?

Where are you living? The past, the present or the future?

A lot of the people I work with (including myself, I am of course my own most challenging client!) spend a lot of time with their heads and their attention somewhere other than right here, right now in the present moment. Some minds are regularly drawn into the past,...
Book review – Constructive Living by David K. Reynolds

Book review – Constructive Living by David K. Reynolds

I’m not sure how I came across this book, Constructive Living by David K. Reynolds, most likely the fantastic podcast that is The One You Feed. But when I was looking for something interesting but not too voluminous to take on holiday recently, it called to me from...
What if you don’t have to?

What if you don’t have to?

If you’re anything like me (which I suspect you might be if you’re reading this) then you’ll occasionally find yourself creating expectations for yourself and the way you think you should be living your life. Sometimes we consciously set these...